Why I created this blog........

Welcome to my blog. Let me start by stating that I have been single off and on for much of my 20's and 30's (soon to enter the dismal abyss of my 40's- YIKES!!). Give or take many short-lived relationships and even a marriage or two mixed in (ok-please don't judge me.....), I have gone through nearly 2 decades of dating. One would think with the length of time and consistent effort I've given to finding the elusive Mr. Right, that I would have this down. However I find myself still not clear on where all these so-called "good catches" are hiding.

I found myself sitting in my office today with a 20-something, 30-something and close to becoming a 40-something (cringe---that's me) and discussing how it is so hard to find good single men even though we live in this huge city.

The 20-something advised us that sitting at Champs sportsbar in Skokie, trying to look sporty and meet men while feigning interest in a game was not going to work. (Having done this recently I concurred). Then again the 30-something disclosed that hanging out at Wildfire in Lincolnshire (although the food is great!) would only net you men over 50 and mostly married ones at that. Having spent her recent birthday there with married couple friends (*see married couples note), she concurred.

This gave me the idea of keeping a list of places that we've tried that failed to produce any potential dates. What I thought would be even better is to share this list with other intelligent and successful single women that find themselves in the same situation. One side note: I KNOW that online dating is "the thing" now. I know EVERYONE knows SOMEONE that is now in a committed relationship, engaged or happily married to someone they met online. However, some of us just CANNOT do the online thing.

So hence the idea for the blog. I will share some stories of my attempts to find good places to meet men and the often humorous outcomes. I will create a list of Yes/No/Maybe places based on the likelihood of finding good "candidates" as I like to call them. I hope that some of you will share your experiences both good and bad as well. Some upcoming plans include Yard Hourse in Glenview (after work crowd?) and line dancing at Cadillac Ranch (suggestion from 30'something). I'll keep you posted!

*Married couples note: You will NOT meet a man while spending Fri/Sat night as 3rd wheel with married couple if you are:
A) seeing a movie (I have yet to meet a man at a movie theater)
B) having dinner at their house with no other guests present
C) sitting in a romantic corner booth of a restaurant with said married couple